The following sentence raises
hair on my neck: You can’t do that! Activated
by the lizard brain and infused with pure simplicity, this sentence inhibits all
progress based on factors that are not attributable to the subject.
Example: Michael wants to jump over a fence. Jim tells him that he
can’t do it. Michael asks why and Jim answers: You just can’t!
Let’s give more depth to the
example. First we discard everything that is illegal, completely immoral and
dangerous. Michael and Jim are neighbours; Michael simply wants to jump over
Jim’s fence which is a short solid wall. Michael is in good health and is
athletic. Jim on the other hand is a little pudgy and suffers from asthma.
What do we see here? Jim imposes
his physical illness onto Michael based on the fact that Jim cannot jump the
wall because of his inability. Can Michael jump the wall? Sure, without a
problem. But since Jim in incapable, he projects his negative experiences onto
others, in this case, Michael. It’s not Jim’s fault though, it’s his lizard
brain. This brain is wired to play super safe and never risk too much. Jim’s
intentions are fundamentally good. He would not want to see his friend and
neighbour injure or hurt himself.
Now let’s put Jim and Michael
into a more “business” context. Michael wants to start investing money in the
stock market. Jim being the best friend he can be tells him (you guessed): You can’t do that! Why? asks Michael. Jim goes and explains that he lost a few thousand
dollars playing in the market and that he should not risk his hard earned cash
into it. Little that he knows is that Michael read about 25 books on the
subject and has been very careful on his approach to investing. He follows a time
proven method that enables his to find safety in investments. Michael is
already doing well in the markets.
Morale of this story: we all have
our own Jim - either inside of our head or close to us. Jim can be our brother,
a friend, an acquaintance. It does not matter. In most cases, Jim will tell you
"you can’t do that " because he can’t.
But you can.
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