Here is a situation that happened
to me one day. My colleagues and I were summoned in my boss’s office. Nothing
out of the ordinary as she very often calls us for multiple reasons in search
of answers or explanation. During those times, we have been under increasing stress
since it is “year-end”, which means that we are closing the books for the 2011
fiscal year.
After we all quickly settled in,
the valves were opened wide. Right off the start, we got criticized for an
issue caused by other people. To explain to you what happened (and what we do),
picture this; People work and sometimes it creates messes, but we are here to
clean up after them. While we are trying our best to clean up as good as we
can, sometimes, crumbs can be left in a corner or dark corridors. These
problems are easily fixable but somehow, these crumbs have created a full-fledged
loaf by my boss’s standard.
Let’s continue: accusing us of
not cleaning the mess properly enough, she blames us that we do not confront
her superior enough when she has special requests. She is suggesting that we
should challenge her every requests and second-guess her. As we sit there baffled
by what we are hearing (who in their right mind does that), another person
starts accusing us of something completely unrelated to the discussion. The
situation escalated so much that one of my team members lost patience and shouted
back at the other person. It ended up as I simply exited the office, some of my
colleagues were pissed off, 1 is on the verge to jump ship and no news from the
accuser. For my boss, business as usual. [ Note : Why exited? I will explain on
another post]
Now, let us think a second. How
would you feel if someone unleashed their wrath at you? Do you think your
message gets across and your team will understand you? Do you think that they
will take initiative to bend to every desire and need? No. We are not in
ancient Egypt and we are not building a pyramid. Fortunately (for my fellow
teammates) and unfortunately for my boss, there are other possibilities for
each and every one of us and mistreating people can only create one thing, more
enemies.
Already in your 10K, you have to
face all kinds of challenges and uphill battles, if there is one thing that you
do not want, if putting people against you. Not that I am suggesting that you
should please everyone (Jesus had haters too), but if you can, make people
comfortable working with you and enjoying it. This is how you create allies.
Screaming should only be used when in a bar or in a loud place. Accusations are
best left to lawyers and politicians. You should be building your brand and
your network.
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